I suppose that I have written this blog for the past two years perhaps but I seem pressured almost every time I go to post my next entry. I don’t know why that happens , perhaps its stage fright or its human.

So when was the last time you said thank you to someone and really meant it? Tough question ,huh, especially in today’s world ,where we may begin our day thinking, what have you done for me lately or what’s in it for me. Surprisingly enough ,it feels good when its coming from another person. Better yet try counting the several times you publicly hear someone saying Thank you. You might be amazed of its frequency.

Elvis Presley actually coined the phrase of politeness by adding two more words, very much. Thank you very much was evidenced often to the many audiences during his unforgettable performances!

I’m about to reach over 970+ hits to my page and quite frankly I would probably have more but it’s not about the measure but I hope a message or a sentence that was inspiring and uplifting and which built confidence when there weren’t any around.

I found something from the book ” The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne” about showing a little gratitude and how much power it possesses if you were to do this daily. Here’s how it goes….

“Be grateful for what you have now. As you begin to think about all the things in your life you are grateful for, you will be amazed at the never-ending thoughts that comes back to you of more things to be grateful for. You have to make a start, and then the law of attraction will receive those grateful thoughts and give you more just like them. You will have locked into the frequency of gratitude and all good things will be yours.” Don’t take my word for it .try it , I suppose.

I’m only expressing my thanks for each of you who have visited my blog here at FindingYourZenith. Not going anywhere for now ….just sharing a little gratitude! I would love to hear what you have to say on the topic!

Thank you, very much!

Curt Canada builds confidence in his clients as an Executive, Leadership, Career, and Life Coach at FindingYourZenith , a private Coaching practice in Washington, DC.

I guess I could feel sad about this upcoming week with all the advertising and restaurant discounts and sports related events that’s catering to Father’s Day however I’m not. Fathers could use alot of recognition even though some of them lately have been misbehaving very badly!

For the record this day is meaningful for me because my father was a hardworking and great Coal Miner from West Virginia who assisted in raising 15 brothers and sister (and yes my mother plays a huge role in our lives even today.) I know you have a story to tell but I don’t think I will have enough neither space nor time to mention it here. Sorry about that but I had better let you know why I chose to talk about Father’s Day and Infertility in the same sentence.

Did you know that…?

“Infertility is a disease, and if you have been diagnosed, you are not alone. According to The Center for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 7.3 million Americans, or 1 in 8 couples of childbearing, age are infertile.”

I have chosen to direct my energy and focus towards those silent individuals who suffer from infertility and/or presently experiencing the inability to procreate due to physical, physiological, genetic issues, or some unknown cause.

I am proud to be a professional member of such an organization as Resolve who advocates, supports, and educates communities and members about infertility.

We can all do something for the men and women and families across our country who
find it difficult to pay out-of-pocket for infertility medical treatment…

“Have the men in your life taken action? Ask them to support the Family Act of 2011, S965
More than 2,000 women and men have contacted their Senators to urge them to co-sponsor S 965 — a bill to create a tax credit for the out-of-pocket costs associated with infertility medical treatment. Introduced in the U.S. Senate by Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (NY), this bill will potentially help thousands of people seek medical treatment that otherwise would be out of reach for them. ”

Secondly, take a moment this week to visit http://www.RESOLVE.ORG to learn more about Infertility and what you can do to support such an important Cause!

Happy Father’s Day

Curt Canada MSW is a leadership, career, and life coach who also provides early intervention communications coaching w/couples experiencing infertility.

I guess I could feel sad about this upcoming week with all the advertising and restaurant discounts and sports related events that’s catering to Father’s Day however I’m not. Fathers could use alot of recognition even though some of them lately have been misbehaving very badly!

For the record this day is meaningful for me because my father was a hardworking and great Coal Miner from West Virginia who assisted in raising 15 brothers and sister (and yes my mother plays a huge role in our lives even today.) I know you have a story to tell but I don’t think I will have enough neither space nor time to mention it here. Sorry about that but I had better let you know why I chose to talk about Father’s Day and Infertility in the same sentence.

Did you know that…?

“Infertility is a disease, and if you have been diagnosed, you are not alone. According to The Center for Disease Control and Prevention, more than 7.3 million Americans, or 1 in 8 couples of childbearing, age are infertile.”

I have chosen to direct my energy and focus towards those silent individuals who suffer from infertility and/or presently experiencing the inability to procreate due to physical, physiological, genetic issues, or some unknown cause.

I am proud to be a professional member of such an organization as Resolve who advocates, supports, and educates communities and members about infertility.

We can all do something for the men and women and families across our country who
find it difficult to pay out-of-pocket for infertility medical treatment…

“Have the men in your life taken action? Ask them to support the Family Act of 2011, S965
More than 2,000 women and men have contacted their Senators to urge them to co-sponsor S 965 — a bill to create a tax credit for the out-of-pocket costs associated with infertility medical treatment. Introduced in the U.S. Senate by Senator Kirsten Gillibrand (NY), this bill will potentially help thousands of people seek medical treatment that otherwise would be out of reach for them. ”

Secondly, take a moment this week to visit http://www.RESOLVE.ORG to learn more about Infertility and what you can do to support such an important Cause!

Happy Father’s Day

Curt Canada MSW is a leadership, career, and life coach who also provides early intervention communications coaching w/couples experiencing infertility.

A recent rash of improper behavior (amongst our elected officials) has significantly diminished the definition of the word leadership and its expected role.

Good leaders must lead by example. Through their actions, which are aligned with what they say, they become a person others want to follow. When leaders say one thing but do another, they erode trust, a critical element of productive leadership. Here are 10 of the dozens of ways to lead by example.

1. Take responsibility. Blame costs you your credibility, keeps team members on the defensive and ultimately sabotages real growth.

2. Be truthful. Inaccurate representation affects everyone. Show that honesty really IS the best policy.

3. Be courageous. Walk through fire (a crisis) first. Take calculated risks that demonstrate commitment to a larger purpose.

4. Acknowledge failure. It makes it OK for your team to do the same and defines failure as part of the process of becoming extraordinary.

5. Be persistent. Try, try again. Go over, under or around any hurdles to show that obstacles don’t define your company or team.

6. Create solutions. Don’t dwell on problems; instead be the first to offer solutions and then ask your team for more.

7. Listen. Ask questions. Seek to understand. You’ll receive valuable insights and set a tone that encourages healthy dialogue.

8. Delegate liberally. Encourage an atmosphere in which people can focus on their core strengths.

9. Take care of yourself. Exercise, don’t overwork, take a break. A balanced team, mentally and physically, is a successful team. Model it, encourage it, support it!

10. Roll up your sleeves. Like Alexander the Great leading his men into battle, you’ll inspire greatness in your company.

Curt Canada MSW provides external coaching in leadership, career,and personal development at FindingYourZenith in Washington DC.

Author’s content used under license, © 2011 Claire Communications

Asking for what you want—and setting boundaries around what you don’t want—is a key life skill. But sometimes in our enthusiasm to practice this skill, we over-do our own assertiveness and end up with a partner who shuts down, gets angry or feels resentful. Here are four tips for developing your assertiveness in a way that will actually strengthen, deepen and enrich your relationship—thus avoiding the “alienation trap”:

1. Get Clear.

Being assertive starts with knowing what you are—and aren’t—willing to be, do, or have. For many of us, coming to this knowledge is a real task unto itself. Here, it may be useful to ask: “In an ideal world, what would I like to happen?” Focusing on an ideal outcome opens our minds, prevents us from falling into passivity or “victim-thinking,” and helps us get really clear on what we want and don’t want.

2. Set Boundaries.

Once you know what outcome you need (or want), share it with your partner. Pay attention to the way stating your boundary feels in your body. With practice, you can actually sense when you’re hitting the “sweet spot.” It can feel really pleasurable, even exhilarating, to express your needs or desires out loud. Phrases like “such and such doesn’t work for me” are simple ways of being assertive while maintaining connection with your partner.

3. Make a Regular Habit of Stating Your Needs and Desires
.
You can build your assertiveness the same way you build any muscle: exercise. Practice speaking up about your needs, big or small, on a daily basis. When you speak up about things that are less controversial—such as where to go to dinner, requesting help unloading the dishwasher or what TV program to watch—both you and your partner get used to your assertiveness. It becomes easier for you to practice and for your partner to hear. Also, when bigger issues come along, you and your partner will have a healthy process in place for dealing with differences in needs, and you’ll have greater confidence in the resilience of your partnership.

4.Give as Much as You Get.

Assertiveness is a two-way street. If you want your boundaries to be respected, you must return the courtesy to your partner. If she doesn’t want you to use the bathroom when she’s in the shower, don’t. If he asks you to give him a half an hour after work before you talk and connect, respect that. When it comes to following through on a partner’s reasonable request, actions really do speak louder than words.

If your partner isn’t respecting your boundaries even though you’ve set them clearly, it may be time for professional help for you and/or your relationship.

Curt Canada is a Life and Career Coach at FindingYourZenith in Washington D.C.

Author’s content used under license, © 2011 Claire Communications