Have you ever heard someone say that stress is a silent killer?  If you’re worried about the bills you have to pay, whether or not you’re living up to your boss’ expectations, or your partner leaving you, there’s one sure-fire way to make these anxieties go away. 

 Keep stressing about them and die of heart disease, cancer, or a host of other illnesses that eat away at you every time you let stress dominate your life.

 It’s likely that we all experience the effects of stress at some point in our lives.  You’re not sure how you’re going to make your next mortgage payment, there’s not enough time in your day to get done everything that needs to get done, or you can’t seem to lose weight despite all of your efforts to stay on your diet. 

 Often, we’ve got deadlines to meet at work and the kids are pulling at us every which way when we get home.  Sometimes we just can’t seem to come to a place of peace; a space in our center where everything is okay.

 Stress is not something that “happens to us.”You might think that everyone and everything else is contributing to all the stress that you’re feeling. You may feel that if THEY or IT would just go away and leave you alone you’d be free to enjoy life as you see it. This ugly, burdensome, sneaky, and pushy thing that we call stress may seem like it rears its head as a result of situations that “happen” to us. 

 What if I told you that the stress you’re “under” is actually a result of a perception that you hold, and that you are the only one who can kick it to the curb for good? It doesn’t matter what’s going on at work, home, or anywhere else. 

You have all the power you need to give stress the boot, but first you need to untie the shackles of fear and allow yourself to look at stress a new way.

  Stress is simply our response to demands that are placed on us. Sometimes the demands are physical, such as when we run ourselves ragged working 15-hour days or cheat ourselves of the precious sleep that our bodies need.

 At other times, the demands are emotional or intellectual like when we don’t feel confident enough to stand up for ourselves in relationships or when we are not secure enough in our skills to ask for the money that we deserve in our careers. 

 When we experience stress, we are simply “perceiving “  we are not enough” or that we “don’t have enough.”

 When we are stressed, we are thinking from a place of “lack.”  Lack of time, resources, skills, money, love, looks, people, things, you name it. The stress that we feel is placed “on” us “BY “ us, and the only one that can get rid of it is US. I am here to help you realize the triggers that bring stress into your life. 

 My Stress Management Report will help you identify how you are dealing with the demands of the world around you.

 The first thing that you need to do to remove stress from your life is to change the way you look at what’s going on inside you and around you. 

 The next time you’re feeling “not enough,” or “don’t have enough,” reach for a thought of abundance. Of “ENOUGH.”  It doesn’t matter what the thought is.  The point is that you just want to feel “enough” of something so you can experience what it’s really like to live with that joyful feeling.

 When you feel the heavy hand of stress weighing down on you, find something that makes you FULL.  Full of love, confidence, joy, respect, experience, knowledge, eternity, whatever it is that eases your mind and calms your spirit.

  Stress can be measured in many ways. 

 You probably know when stress is starting to take center stage in your own life.  When your level of performance drops and your focus becomes skewed.

 I have recognized stress in my own life when I’ve felt:

     * constant shallowness of breath

     * a confusion of the mind that swings from panic to excessive crying to depression 

     * self- questioning or doubt

 Others may know that they’re under stress when they console themselves with food, alcohol, or drugs to feel better; to simply find respite from the ongoing pressures that they are experiencing.

 As much as stress is an unwelcome visitor, in times when we think we couldn’t possibly handle any more of life’s challenges, it’s wise to look at stress as a gift; one that’s been given to help us recognize the best way to live our lives in peace and harmony.

 Small amounts of stress can be a good thing if you learn to use it for your benefit.  If you allow it to teach you what really works for you in your life, and what doesn’t.

 Our bodies are programmed with a built-in response system that allows for physiological changes to cope with stressful situations.  This is called the “fight or flight” response, and it comes in handy when we’re being chased by an abductor or in other emergency situations. But, it’s unnatural and dangerous for the body to undergo stress after stress, for long periods of time.  When this happens, our health and emotional lives are at risk.

 Aside from the rare encounter with a legitimate fear or stress, in the course of our normal lives there is really not much that we need to be getting so upset over.

 

The next time you feel stressed, ask yourself these questions:

  • Will this thing that I’m stressed over really matter much in a month, a year, 5 years?
  • Do I really need this responsibility in my life? 
  • What is it that I REALLY WANT to consume my life?
  • What is the worst that can happen here, and is it really as bad as I’ve perceived it to be?
  • Will letting go of this issue allow for better things to come into my life?
  • Will facing this fear or problem, head on, help me to focus on ways that I AM taking charge of my own life? Will it show me what I’m doing that IS working?
  • Are these the type of people who I want to surround myself with?
  • Am I placing too many demands on myself and being unrealistic about what is humanly possible?
  • When I search my heart for the answers to my concerns, what does it tell me?

 Stress and its symptoms can be a window to the life that you are meant to live.  When it comes calling, answer with what is in your heart.  Tell stress that you are ready to purge old fears, habits, people, jobs, thoughts of “not enough,” feelings of “not good enough,” and anything else that is not allowing you to experience the love of life that you were meant to experience.

Let me help you to find a quiet place within yourself where you can thank stress for stopping by, and absolve it of any power over your life.

 My Stress Feedback Coaching session is the perfect venue for tapping into how you are presently dealing with the stress in your life, and for uncovering what it is that you really want to be consuming your life.  Contact me for a discounted session.

 You are in control now.  You always have been.  It’s time to take the next step and show yourself who’s in charge.  With my help, you can easily Adapt 2 Change and carve out the life of your dreams.

Curt Canada helps clients manage stress learning firsthand their stress handling style that’s associated with their Personality TYPE accompanied by collaborative feedback and coaching. Visit us at www.adapting2change.com

 

 1 Finding its True Meaning…not a time for evaluation nor criticism. I must share with you that it is not humanly possible not to think about all those memorable times with loved ones whom you have shared past holiday seasons. There are regrets perhaps and for some a happy time and for some of you ,sadness. Think of, if you can a happy, surprised, good surprised moment you recall or something totally silly or funny about this holiday if you just have to return to the past. A meditative moment has been noted to reduce stress. Thanksgiving is just around the corner and those most celebrated gift -giving days are not so far in the distant!  So go ahead and deck the halls for goodness sake! Actually not just yet, there’s Thanksgiving!

Perhaps there’s a special bulb you have made for the Christmas tree….a song that you like though you can’t really carry a tune…if you can handle a comedy live show ..definitely attend….we all could use a laugh or two… invest time in helping others or visiting someone less fortunate than you. I will leave it up to you to find your meaning for such a holiday celebrated by many throughout the world in their own way.

 2 Logistics: Travel, Budgetary, and Social Arrangements:  plan Ask yourself if it’s going to be stretch or strain on your budget about the  purchase of gifts? So you’re in that unemployment boat that millions find themselves this holiday season, so what? Don’t give up, keep looking for that job! However don’t accept any factitious and or real credit cards! It’s not your money. Do shop for bargains …they’re out there? Plan months ahead for that holiday plane or train or bus ticket? Travel safe? Check your tires and an overall check-up of your car?  Get ample rest before and after your trip or holiday vacation.

 Get physically and emotionally ready: Am I ready for this. Holidays are not immune of past events and moments in one’s life that are not always happy times. Keep in mind that you will most likely cross family and friends and past admirers during this time. Try  keeping those times separate. Not a time to evaluate though you are approaching the end of another year. Give praise and gratitude ..there’s much to be simply thankful for. Find a gym or a yoga class ..exercise is so important for relieving stress. Eat lots of veggies and fruit. Get and give lots of hugs but stay away from the common cold and all other communicable viruses if possible.

4 It will come and go…. Visualize what would blow your top off? Don’t go there then. You do have the ability to dummy down some of those in the past memorable stressful experiences.

 5 Most importantly: Find time for self….take a break from all the hustle and demands placed upon oneself during this particular time of year  (find a good book to read)  take an impromptu walk/ stay away from the tv/ stay away from big crowds/drink lots of water and juice….minimize your alcohol content(take it from me…alcohol does not alleviate stress!)….give thanks often no matter what your faith or religion happens to be….take a nap in the middle of the day… stay away from last years holiday experience… perhaps I didn’t cover anything that would truly help you alleviate what’s placing so much stress in your life but at least for the moment you were forced to tread somewhere beyond yourself to a world of possibilities when it comes of thinking and getting ready for one if not the biggest holiday seasons of the year! Show a little gratitude starting with Thanksgiving. This will lower your stress tremendously as you plan your celebrations next month.

 Lastly, don’t drink and drive….find a designated driver or hide the keys.  Remember, it’s not always about you or me or where and how quickly we need to get there.

 Oh, by the way…an early Happy New Year  to you all !

 Curt Canada- Board Certified Coach at Adapting2change in Washington DC coaches clients in areas of  personal, workplace, and leadership development f2f and via  Skype and web-conferencing.

A  personal coaching company in washington d.c.  is seeking persons who are unemployed and in need a supportive listener.  What will you get from an hour coaching or brainstorming session.  It’s up to you what you will take away from this focused collaborative conversation.  Here’s the ground rules 1  email me your story (250 words or less) 2  your goal(s) 3 you pay for the call  4 lv  a tentative scheduled time for your coaching 5  pay or donate what you can!   Here’s your ticket to helping yourself . Go ahead and take that first step ! Email me at findingyourzenith@gmail .com     ” Help me to help you during these tough times!

Curt Canada is a  trained social worker and life coach  at Finding Your Zenith in Washington D.C.

If I’m not mistaken I think that Venus Williams is doing well these days on the tennis circuit so this title must have something to do with  astrology and astronomy. Our economy is at a standstill and our markets are moving in a backwards motion. I don’t know about you but the last four months has taken its toll on me. If it weren’t for the bailout tv show ’24” then most of us would have very little to look forward too. What exactly did you do all winter long? I hope you still have a job and a roof over your head. You betcha I’m so glad that spring is just around the corner. Daylight savings time can’t arrive to soon! Longer days adds up to more vitamin D, light sunshine,  choices, energy, and definitely more oxygen. Now that’s what we all need. I’ll watch March madness, yeah ,the college basketball tournament and yes “24”. Congress, Politics, CNN,  and the nation will just have to fend for themselves.  I plan to take a mental and emotional vacation. The President has asked us to get involved in volunteering.  Our country and our communities need us all badly to give back and participate in helping improve our environment. So get on board, ride the wave, catch the spirit. Spring is on it’s way! There’s nothing like the outdoors!